Why Epstein's Story Is a Reminder to Trust Your Gut

With Jeffrey Epstein back in the headlines, it’s a good time to revisit a difficult but essential conversation — one about boundary violations and grooming.

The young women Epstein exploited likely thought they were stepping into opportunity. They were promised payment. Education. Even tuition for massage school. On the surface, it might have looked like a leg up in life. In reality, those “opportunities” were carefully designed manipulation — the kind that can happen anywhere.

Epstein normalized inappropriate behavior in ways that likely felt gradual at the time — sexual comments, suggestive wording, unwanted touching. That’s how grooming works: it blurs lines, erodes boundaries, and makes the unacceptable feel routine.

And while his case is extreme, the truth is:
This type of manipulation isn’t confined to high-profile scandals. It can happen in your school, your sports club, or even at the local park.

That’s why it’s so important to recognize red flags in real time. If something feels uncomfortable — whether it’s a comment, a touch, or a request — it’s often a sign a boundary has been crossed. You have every right to speak up:

• “I’m not comfortable talking about that.”

• “Please don’t touch me without asking.”

  
  

At its core, safeguarding starts with listening to your gut. Your instincts are there to protect you. If something doesn’t feel right, trust that feeling — and speak up.

Signs of Grooming

While grooming can look different in every situation, some common warning signs include:

• Excessive flattery or special attention that makes the person feel “chosen” or different from others.

• Gradual crossing of boundaries, starting small (inappropriate jokes or comments) and building over time.

• Isolating the person from friends, family, or trusted adults.

• Gifts, money, or opportunities given in exchange for time, affection, or secrecy.

• Normalizing inappropriate behavior through jokes, stories, or exposure to sexual content.

• Encouraging secrecy — saying things like “Don’t tell anyone” or “This is just between us.”

• Making the victim feel indebted for favors, opportunities, or gifts.

• Testing reactions to small violations before escalating.

  
  

Recognizing these signs early — and acting on that gut feeling — can help stop abuse before it starts.